Single Mom Dating Tips

I’m so sick of hearing about bigger girls who feel unattractive or insecure because of their weight and who let it stop them from getting out there and dating. Look around you ladies; there is beauty in all shapes and sizes! We all know a big girl who just knows how to work it. You know the ones; the girls who dress sexy and walk tall and have men falling allover them even though they’re plus sized. These women end up with some of the finest and sexiest men; you know why? It’s because they are confident and comfortable in their own skin and know how to love themselves! This kind of self-love is obvious to those around you and radiates from you; attracting men’s attention and making them take notice.

Sex appeal isn’t only about how you look but more about how you feel. The way you feel about yourself shows, so if you feel attractive; that’s how others will see you and the same goes for feeling bad about yourself. You need to work with what you’ve got and learn to love yourself—biggylicious and all!

Men notice women who smell good, take care of themselves and know how to carry themselves. Being fat doesn’t mean having to schlep around in baggy clothes trying to hide yourself from the world. Learn to dress to flatter your body whether it’s plus sized or super-sized! Wear high heels, get your hair and nails done and pamper yourself every chance you get—you deserve it! Taking care of yourself will make you feel good so you can look good.

The magazines may still favor skinny, boney girls, but men have and always will prefer a girl with some meat on her bones. Look to all of the curvy girls that are out there making names for themselves like Queen Latifah and Jenifer Hudson; these are big girls with more sex appeal and confidence in a pinky than a lot of thinner women have at all! Do you think that they’re letting their bigger bodies keep them down and stop them from getting what they want? We can learn a lot from these women! Being sexy is more a state of mind than anything. You need to realize how hot you are and then others will believe it too.

Men will be the first ones to admit that when it comes to sex especially; the last thing on their minds is your cellulite! They’re so happy to have a great woman in their bed that they don’t even notice anything else! So if they don’t worry about it, why should you??

Single moms especially are prone to feeling down about their bodies after having kids and then feeling super-sensitive and vulnerable after the end of a relationship or a divorce. They’re also so busy trying to take care of their kids that they often put themselves last and let themselves go. You need to realize that the fact that you are a single mother makes you even more deserving of some pampering! You’re a wonderful and strong woman who has made it through a bad break up and is taking care of her child(ren); this alone makes you a beautiful woman!

You need to see yourself the way that you wish others would see you. You need to believe that you deserve a wonderful and caring man who will see you as the most incredible creature on Earth. As soon as you realize how amazing, strong and sexy you are; everyone else will too.

Check out my book Single Moms Dating Guide to Catching the Man of Your Dreams in 30 Days for all kinds of tips on being the best person that you can be so you can attract Mr. Right.

The lyrics of this song may get some hard-nosed feminists in an uproar, but I for one love the song and agree to the lyrics and the message of the song. Have a look:

Baby I See You Working Hard
I Want To Let You Know I'm Proud,
Let You Know That I Admire What You Do
The More If I Need To Reassure You, My Life Would Be Purposeless Without You (Yeah)
If I Want It (Got It)
When I Ask You (You Provide It)
You Inspire Me To Be Better
You Challenge Me For The Better
Sit Back And Let Me Pour Out My Love Letter

Let Me Help You
Take Off Your Shoes
Untie Your Shoestrings
Take Off Your Cufflinks (Yeah)
What You Want To Eat Boo? (Yeah)
Let Me Feed You
Let Me Run Your Bathwater
Whatever You Desire, I'll Aspire
Sing You A Song
Turn The Game On
I'll Brush Your Hair
Help Put Your Do Rag On
Want A Foot Rub? (Yeah)
You Want A Manicure?
Baby I'm Yours I Want To Cater To You Boy

Let Me Cater To You
Cause Baby This Is Your Day
Do Anything For My Man
Baby You Blow Me Away
I Got Your Slippers, Your Dinner, Your Dessert, And So Much More
Anything You Want Just Let Me Cater To You
Inspire Me From The Heart,
Can't Nothing Tear Us Apart
You're All That I Want In A Man;
I Put My Life In Your Hands
I Got Your Slippers, Your Dinner, Your Dessert, And So Much More
Anything You Want, I Want To Cater To You

Baby I'm Happy You're Home,
Let Me Hold You In My Arms
I Just Want To Take The Stress Away From You
Making Sure That I'm Doing My Part (Oh)
Boy Is There Something You Need Me To Do (Oh)
If You Want It (I Got It)
Say The Word (I Will Try It)
I Know Whatever I'm Not Fulfilling (Oh)
Another Woman Is Willing (Oh)
I'm Going To Fulfill Your Mind, Body, And Spirit

I Promise You (Promise You)
I'll Keep Myself Up (Oh)
Remain The Same Chick (Yeah)
You Fell In Love With (Yeah)
I'll Keep It Tight, I'll Keep My Figure Right
I'll Keep My Hair Fixed, Keep Rocking The Hottest Outfits
When You Come Home Late Tap Me On My Shoulder, I'll Roll Over
Baby I Heard You, I'm Here To Serve You (I'm Lovin It, I'm Lovin It)
If It's Love You Need, To Give It Is My Joy
All I Want To Do, Is Cater To You Boy

I Want To Give You My Breath, My Strength, My Will To Be Here
That's The Least I Can Do,
Let Me Cater To You
Through The Good (Good)
The Bad (Through The Bad)
The Ups And The Downs (Ups And Downs)
I'll Still Be Here For You
Let Me Cater To You
Cause You're Beautiful (You're Beautiful)
I Love The Way You Are (You Are)
Fulfill Your Every Desire (Desire)
Your Wish Is My Command (Command)
I Want To Cater To My Man
Your Heart (Your Heart)
So Pure Your Love Shines Through(Shines Through)
The Darkness We'll Get Through (So Much)
So Much Of Me Is You (Is You)
I Want To Cater To My Man

When you finally find a good, honest man who takes care of you and loves you and your child unconditionally; there is nothing wrong with wanting to cater to him and make him happy the way that he does you. It may seem like a step backwards to a time when women catered to their men while the man went out to earn a living and provide, but if you think about it; divorce was almost non-existent in those times and families stayed together through thick and thin and knew how to compromise and love unconditionally. Isn’t that what we want?

It’s hard to be a single mom dating because you’re not only on the lookout for the perfect man for you but for your kids as well. You don’t let your child(ren) dictate who you see of course, but you can’t just forget that they exist and opt to marry someone who does not accept them with open arms or vice versa. When it comes to a child, you need to be sensitive to their feelings and know that a new man in your lives means they need some time to adjust. Luckily, children are a lot more resilient and adaptable and accepting than adults.

What happens if your man does not accept your child(ren)? I know this is tough, especially if you’ve fallen in love with someone, but when it comes to your flesh and blood; there is no room to be with a man who cannot accept them. They are a part of you! If he doesn’t accept and love your children then he is not really capable of loving you completely either since they are an extension of you.

It’s understandable that a man may need a little time to warm up to your child(ren) and bond, especially if he was not a kid-person to begin with. A man who is willing to accept and work at bonding even though it will take some time is definitely worth keeping. On the other hand, a man who is not accepting can’t be bothered to make the effort to try and refuses to see them as a part of you; this is not a man that you should be with. As a mother, you have a responsibility to make the best choices that you can for your children and by choosing to be with a man who doesn’t accept them and prefers to treat them as though they don’t exist; you are not being a good mother.

Staying with a man who doesn’t like or accept your kid(s) is asking for trouble because they will forever feel that they were second. Your child should never be made to feel second to anyone at all; let alone a man who came into the picture after they were already born! The affect that this can have on a child is devastating and not something that will ever really go away. And if you think that by going ahead with the relationship that they will eventually learn to love each other the way you want them to; you’re in for a rude awakening.

If it comes down to man who won’t accept and just doesn’t like your kid(s); then you need to move on. It’s unconditional love that you should be striving for and that’s not what you’re getting if you are with a man who won’t accept your children and care for them. They are a part of you, so to truly love you means truly accepting them. This is another reason why it’s important to tell a man about your children as soon as you can; cuz there’s no sense in getting attached to someone who will not want all of you as a package in the end.

Check out the Single Moms Dating Guide to Catching the Man of Your Dreams in 30 Days