Single Mom Dating Tips

It’s hard to be a single mom dating because you’re not only on the lookout for the perfect man for you but for your kids as well. You don’t let your child(ren) dictate who you see of course, but you can’t just forget that they exist and opt to marry someone who does not accept them with open arms or vice versa. When it comes to a child, you need to be sensitive to their feelings and know that a new man in your lives means they need some time to adjust. Luckily, children are a lot more resilient and adaptable and accepting than adults.

What happens if your man does not accept your child(ren)? I know this is tough, especially if you’ve fallen in love with someone, but when it comes to your flesh and blood; there is no room to be with a man who cannot accept them. They are a part of you! If he doesn’t accept and love your children then he is not really capable of loving you completely either since they are an extension of you.

It’s understandable that a man may need a little time to warm up to your child(ren) and bond, especially if he was not a kid-person to begin with. A man who is willing to accept and work at bonding even though it will take some time is definitely worth keeping. On the other hand, a man who is not accepting can’t be bothered to make the effort to try and refuses to see them as a part of you; this is not a man that you should be with. As a mother, you have a responsibility to make the best choices that you can for your children and by choosing to be with a man who doesn’t accept them and prefers to treat them as though they don’t exist; you are not being a good mother.

Staying with a man who doesn’t like or accept your kid(s) is asking for trouble because they will forever feel that they were second. Your child should never be made to feel second to anyone at all; let alone a man who came into the picture after they were already born! The affect that this can have on a child is devastating and not something that will ever really go away. And if you think that by going ahead with the relationship that they will eventually learn to love each other the way you want them to; you’re in for a rude awakening.

If it comes down to man who won’t accept and just doesn’t like your kid(s); then you need to move on. It’s unconditional love that you should be striving for and that’s not what you’re getting if you are with a man who won’t accept your children and care for them. They are a part of you, so to truly love you means truly accepting them. This is another reason why it’s important to tell a man about your children as soon as you can; cuz there’s no sense in getting attached to someone who will not want all of you as a package in the end.

Check out the Single Moms Dating Guide to Catching the Man of Your Dreams in 30 Days