Single Mom Dating Tips

Shay Your Date Diva is the Author and Creator of "Single Moms Dating Guide to Catching the Man of Your Dreams in 30 Days!" www.singlemomsdatingguide.com

It is sad to think of what dating has come to, but the horrible reality is that we live in a world filled with people who hurt others. As single moms dating, we need to be careful of the men that we bring around our children and as pessimistic or even morbid as that may sound; we have a responsibility to protect our children and need to do that to the best of our ability.

We want to believe that we have great judgment and can tell a good apple from a bad one, but we’re only human and we can find ourselves misled by sweet talkin’ men who give good game and know what to say to get us to let our guard down. If you look at some of the most notorious criminals throughout history; many of them were sweet-faced, charismatic charmers who seemed to be well spoken and all around good guys; yet capable of rape, murder and other heinous acts. These are not men that we want to waste a moment thinking of, but they are the ones that we need to learn from so that we can keep ourselves and our children safe.

Learning to listen to our gut instinct can make a huge difference in the type of men that we end up with and ultimately bring around our kids. Your gut instinct is a sign that something is off and you need to learn to trust it as opposed to brushing it off as being paranoid or a reaction to having been hurt in the past. It can save you a lot of suffering if you learn to place more trust in your own instincts.

Regardless of how great your new boyfriend may seem, you should consider the fact that all you know about him is what he has told you. Unless you’re dating a man who is related to a good friend or has been a family acquaintance for years; you need to do a little digging to make sure that he is on the up and up before you bring him home to meet your kids or even trust him alone with your kids. I know that this isn’t quite as romantic as you dream of when thinking of meeting Mr. Right, but it is necessary.

Paying attention to how he interacts with others can give you a lot of insight into what he’s about, especially when he thinks that no one is looking. Take any opportunity you can to meet his friends and family and encourage conversations about his upbringing and past so that you can look for any red flags. And finally, it’s worth investing a few bucks to do a background check if you’re getting serious enough that it’s time to bring him home to your precious child(ren).

A little caution will go a long way in protecting your children and your peace of mind.